What are people’s thoughts on mutual masterbation

[Friendlycock]

Since penetration is not probable, (vaginismus), MM was the only option. Now it's not an option. I do it myself until I find someone M or F to do it with.

[Friendlycock]

I don't cum on my wife. Unfortunately, masturbating is a distasteful activity to her, and show prefers to know nothing about it.

My wife used to privately. Only did it once when she was heavily drugged on sleeping pills. No, she doesn't masturbate nor use dildos. Now my cock is a no go. How did I get stuck in this mess?

[Sandra]

I don't cum on my wife. Unfortunately, masturbating is a distasteful activity to her, and show prefers to know nothing about it.

My wife used to privately. Only did it once when she was heavily drugged on sleeping pills. No, she doesn't masturbate nor use dildos. Now my cock is a no go. How did I get stuck in this mess?

 

[Max]

I would agree with Sandra's perspectives regarding men ...

For me, those early adolescent years were filled with naivety and exploration ... sometimes aided by older brothers or friends.  Summer camp, communial showers for the first time, etc.  Who is developing faster than their friends.  My limited experience during those years didn't lead to ejaculation, but would still fall under the broad definition of masturbation (it felt good!) and was certainly mutual.

Fast forward to now - mature years.  We've been around the block.  We don't worry about whether it's considered "gay" or not, and would likely be more open to the idea even if it were.  At this point it's more about pleasure, sometimes intimacy, and filling a need in our lives that may be lacking from other sources.

My two cents ...

You kind of covered my thoughts. It may be that 50% of guys have wanked another cock but that may have been as teenager or 60+
Im not sure that 50% applies to 20-60 yrs groups so asking a guy of say 45, might result in being told,  'get out'.

[Max]

I have in the past a long time ago. It was always a huge turn on.  I love watching a live ejaculation and especially the man's facial reaction and vocalization on orgasm. 

Yeh, with no female sex partner, the thoughts of wanking another guy increased.  Best I've done is make videos and swap them and then respo d to him hen he asks that I do it like 'this' or like 'that'.
By asking each other to do it slightly differently or with a different cam angle or different location, it enhances my cum experience when I do that for him and when I see him doing it for me.

So PM me, guys and women, if you're up for something more intimate and naughty than photos or mass-produced porn. 

Closest ive been to doing for real with a guy wasn't really close. Had he been up for it, I think it would have happened.  Last summer (23) it was warm in uk. My home office is upstairs so it gets really hot. So I sat nude but roughly every hour I had to get out to cool down. Nude and outside is a lovely combination.

I saw the guy next door one night, as he had a smoke. We spoke for a few minutes and long enough that he had a second one.  I told him I am nude when I come outside and gave him the reason. I said I hoped that if he happened to see me, that he wouldn't be embarrassed and that he wouldn't mind.  He said firstly that he wouldn't do it but it would be fine if I do. Wrong answer, lol.  I wasn't nude that time because I knew I'd speak to him.

Key thing is that because it wasn't about sex or masturbating, he wasn't spooked.  He said some days later that if I had said I would be wanking, he'd have been spooked. Since then he has guessed that that's what I might actually be doing when nude outside. He said he didn't have a problem with it but if he saw me wanking he probably wouldn't know what to do. When I asked what he meant, he said he wouldn't know whether he could watch or should he go indoors.  I said it wouldn't matter to me even if he had a wank. It's as much his choice as mine is mine. 
So it is possible to chat to guys about it without retribution but only hindsight provides that knowledge - hence the risk.

[jack1566hard]

I love mutual masturbation but it never lasts long as it is usually part of foreplay and each time the woman and I get so worked up that we end up fucking before everybody can get fully undressed.

[Sandra]

I love mutual masturbation but it never lasts long as it is usually part of foreplay and each time the woman abd I get so worked up that we end up fucking before everybody can get fully undressed.

That does happen a lot, but just sometimes its nice just to masturbate while your partner just looks.

[Max]

It would be something I would like to do if given an opportunity. 

Im not sure we're close enough geographically but if you and your wife - or just you - want to see me wanking and to let me watch you, PM me :)

[jack1566hard]

That does happen a lot, but just sometimes its nice just to masturbate while your partner just looks.

Sandra, you're right it would be really nice if at least once I could just be with a woman and we just watch each other.  that said I might cheat just a bit and lick or suck a nipple or two while she's busy elsewhere...just saying.

[Sandra]

I often just start to masturbate in the evening on the couch together, most times when there is a football match on the TV (boring) he sometimes continues to watch the game and have quick looks my way too, and at some point he will get his cock out and masturbate too while looking at me.

[Max]

I often just start to masturbate in the evening on the couch together, most times when there is a football match on the TV (boring) he sometimes continues to watch the game and have quick looks my way too, and at some point he will get his cock out and masturbate too while looking at me.

Is that not simultaneously masturbation or offset masturbation?  Isn't mutual masturbation where both do each other?

I enjoy when being nude at home with a friend, chatting more intimately as we do when nude and then at some point she just begins to masturbate. She cums and then we continue chatting.  It's a whole other thing from sex or from masturbating leading to sex. 

A couple of them have said they enjoy being watched by a guy who doesn't assume it gives him a green light to fuck. That's also one reason they enjoy being nude with me. Freedom of being nude without pressure, perceived or otherwise, to have sex. Works for me :)

Occasionally we'll masturbate mutually and sometimes have sex or give each other oral.

It's the freedom of casual nudity and freedom from sex pressure that adds to their experience and, by inference, mine too.

[Sandra]

Is that not simultaneously masturbation or offset masturbation?  Isn't mutual masturbation where both do each other?

I thought doing it too each other was 'Forplay'

Foreplay usually comes before intercourse.
Foreplay can include a lot of different things, like kissing, sharing fantasies, or touching one another's genitals.
The purpose of foreplay is to add to sexual excitement, and, especially for women, to help prepare the body for intercourse by increasing vaginal lubrication.

then at some point she just begins to masturbate.
She cums and then we continue chatting.

<--- We do that a lot.