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Posted by Sandra
 - Today at 13:01

What is it like for a guy to have sex for the first time?
advice for a virginal male

1) Don't try it drunk. You might think that will help, but it only makes everything worse. Tipsy is acceptable. Drunk is not.

2) Condoms. No, they are not ideal, but they are cheaper than diapers, and they are necessary. Any idiot who thinks he can "pull out" in time every time in the middle of the least rational moment of his life is fooling himself. Don't let him fool you. Why not take a second before penetration to let yourself worry a lot less during it? Besides, if you try to "pull out", you can still get a girl pregnant even with perfect timing, and there are of course STDs to worry about. She told you she was a virgin? Yeah, well you told her you had money, so what did you expect? Once you're in a stable, trusting relationship or actually trying to have kids this changes of course, but at age 22? Get the big box.

3) Porn is bullshit. Entertaining bullshit, but bullshit nonetheless. Watch a few porn videos in the days leading up to the fateful day, then resolve to never do anything exactly that way in real life. In addition to the exploitation issues about which I can't joke, there is the nature of the depictions themselves. What it boils down to is this- porn is meant to be entertaining, almost exclusively for frustrated straight men. It is not meant to be remotely realistic or instructive. It sure as hell has nothing to do with the pleasure of anyone involved, even the men and especially not the women. The simple physical need to put the camera somewhere (and the usual choices of where to put it) alone warps things. Which brings me to the next two points.

4) Learn how to swing it. This is going to sound stupid, but bear with me. A lot of guys go from halfway in just about all the way out. They are probably trying to imitate what they see in porn, but that is only done to make more of a show. Unless your partner is watching a live feed from a camera zoomed into her crotch on her smart phone, I don't think she really cares how it looks. She cares how it feels.

So don't worry about the backswing. That will naturally take care of itself. Focus on the thrust. Go from halfway in to all the way in. You will quickly find that this is actually more intuitive and instinctual and it feels a lot better for both of you.

5) Use your hands and mouth. Caress, kiss, massage, taste and explore. Grope and squeeze if she likes that. A fuller, more immersive experience is better for both of you. If you like her body so much you might as well get acquainted with it.

6) Dance. This connection is hyped (especially in the minds of women) for a reason. Twerking doesn't count. That kind of nonsense misses the point. The classics are the classics for a reason. Take a closer look at Latin or swing dancing. It's actually just as sensual and sexy as it is fun and fun to watch. What's really going on is not all risky business and flashing underwear, it's just the simple fact that you are training yourself mentally and physically to move with another person and not just deal upon a passive recipient. Not only that, but it's with that person, who will always be at least a little different from any other, and the combination of you both is more unique still.

7) Women are not all the same. Women have more variety in their minds, personalities, bodies, and specific sexual preferences than men do. Most hate porn, but some like it. Some want to be aggressive and some want you to be, though please note that "aggressive" does not mean the exact same thing as "dominant" and "dominant" does not necessarily mean the same thing as full-fledged BDSM. Some like leather, lace or cosplay. Some like romance novels in varying degrees of raunchiness. Some like bodybuilders and frat brats, while others like scrawny poets and hipsters. Some prefer to date older or younger. Some women like other women. Some like all of these things to varying degrees, as it suits their moods.

And all too many women have no idea what they like.

8) Most of the time, nobody gets what they want. No man bats a thousand, and the vast majority of us will be rejected what, at least 7-10 times for every (real) phone number that we get? This even goes for women somewhat. The hottest guy in the club can't take them all home, and Brad Pitt and George Clooney are married.

And really, most of the time that girl just wants to get home or finish her grocery shopping. Of course you can flirt, but just remember that you're not likely to get anything out of it more than a (hopefully) pleasant conversation no matter how well you "play" it. That's not really a bad thing. You can make actual connections and even friends by flirting respectfully and keeping it friendly.

But if she utters those fateful words "I have a boyfriend", then please, shut the fuck up. There are only two reasons why a woman would say that. Either it's true, and she feels like you're infringing upon that relationship, or she's lying, and if she is, that is not cause for retribution. If you know why she would lie about that then you would not touch that hornet's nest with a ten-foot pole. It's not because she's some kind of bad person. It's because somewhere in that three minute conversation she came to the conclusion that she couldn't trust you with herself or the truth. She told you the lie "I have a boyfriend" because she didn't think you'd respect the truth "I'm just not interested." She didn't think you'd respect a real woman, so she invented a fictitious man whom you just might.
Posted by curiousgeorge
 - Yesterday at 17:38
Quote from: Sandra on Yesterday at 12:31There are some girls thet really like sucking cock and they would probably love that but I think they might be few and far between,




Good to know. Thanks!
Posted by Sandra
 - Yesterday at 12:31
Quote from: curiousgeorge on Dec, 08, 2025, And I wouldn't mind going back to grow up again with what I know now.
Quote from: Sandra on Dec, 09, 2025, Oh if only we could,

Quote from: curiousgeorge on Dec, 09, 2025, Pulling out of their cum dripping pussy and for putting the little guy in their mouth,

There are some girls thet really like sucking cock and they would probably love that but I think they might be few and far between,



Posted by curiousgeorge
 - Dec, 09, 2025,
Quote from: Sandra on Dec, 09, 2025, Oh if only we could,
(I do you suck cock but it's not on my first thing to do list.)
No problem. We can do it secondly...lol
And especially if you're one who might like tasting yourself in the process???
There again, was something I avoided doing and for missing out on a lot by thinking it would be disgusting to them. Pulling out of their cum dripping pussy and for putting the little guy in their mouth, I mean.
So, speaking for women, how many do you think there is percentage wise, that likes that, while keeping in mind that they do and like sucking cock in the first place?
Posted by Sandra
 - Dec, 09, 2025,
Quote from: curiousgeorge on Dec, 08, 2025, And I wouldn't mind going back to grow up again with what I know now. yes#
Quote from: curiousgeorge on Dec, 08, 2025, she did have a go at sucking my cock a little, as well, but really not her thing, like it is for some women.

Oh if only we could,
(I do you suck cock but it's not on my first thing to do list.)