The Curious Hotel

QuoteDo they feel the same for everyone?

Biologically, everyone moves through the same stages. We become aroused, then move to a plateau phase (highly aroused), onto orgasm, then resolution (when the body returns to normal).

Psychologically, it's unlikely everyone experiences the same sensations since orgasms appear to be as individual as the people who have them.

Here, women tell me their orgasm experience:

'It seems so easy for men. Men try to put off their orgasms for as long as possible; women are always trying to induce theirs. I don't know any woman who, when she feels an orgasm coming, tries to stop it. Why would she? Women must be in a certain head space to climax; they're not that easy to achieve. I guess the equaliser is men's orgasms seem quicker than ours and they can't have them as often.'

'Sex with someone new, who I'm desperate to sleep with but haven't yet, is different to sex with a long-term boyfriend. I'm more turned on but, ironically, I'm often too turned on to orgasm clitorally. When we finally get down to it, all I really want is penetration. I have a dull, aching feeling in my lower belly and a need to be 'filled up'.'

'Vaginal orgasms affect a larger area – they feel like waves of pleasure are crashing all over my body. Clitoral orgasms all radiate from the clitoris. They're specific and localised: more a euphoric explosion that I feel just in that small area.'

'I can masturbate to a clitoral orgasm within a few minutes, but I need to know and relax with a partner before he can give me one. I concentrate, block him out of the picture and focus entirely on the sensation. I have to think about me, not him.'

'Oral sex orgasms are the best: intense, strong and powerful. Sometimes it feels as though the rest of my body disappears and all that's left is that tiny little area that is the clitoris. If someone chopped my arm off at that point, I wouldn't know; all I'm aware of is what's happening to that centimetre or less of flesh.

'Orgasms are great but take a lot of effort. I know they only last about a minute but it feels much longer. I feel a bit faint afterward, so lie back for a minute or two. I guess that's why French women nickname orgasm 'le petit mort', the little death.'

Quote from: Sandra on Dec, 13, 2023,

QuoteDo they feel the same for everyone?

Biologically, everyone moves through the same stages. We become aroused, then move to a plateau phase (highly aroused), onto orgasm, then resolution (when the body returns to normal).

Psychologically, it's unlikely everyone experiences the same sensations since orgasms appear to be as individual as the people who have them.

Here, women tell me their orgasm experience:

'It seems so easy for men. Men try to put off their orgasms for as long as possible; women are always trying to induce theirs. I don't know any woman who, when she feels an orgasm coming, tries to stop it. Why would she? Women must be in a certain head space to climax; they're not that easy to achieve. I guess the equaliser is men's orgasms seem quicker than ours and they can't have them as often.'

'Sex with someone new, who I'm desperate to sleep with but haven't yet, is different to sex with a long-term boyfriend. I'm more turned on but, ironically, I'm often too turned on to orgasm clitorally. When we finally get down to it, all I really want is penetration. I have a dull, aching feeling in my lower belly and a need to be 'filled up'.'

'Vaginal orgasms affect a larger area – they feel like waves of pleasure are crashing all over my body. Clitoral orgasms all radiate from the clitoris. They're specific and localised: more a euphoric explosion that I feel just in that small area.'

'I can masturbate to a clitoral orgasm within a few minutes, but I need to know and relax with a partner before he can give me one. I concentrate, block him out of the picture and focus entirely on the sensation. I have to think about me, not him.'

'Oral sex orgasms are the best: intense, strong and powerful. Sometimes it feels as though the rest of my body disappears and all that's left is that tiny little area that is the clitoris. If someone chopped my arm off at that point, I wouldn't know; all I'm aware of is what's happening to that centimetre or less of flesh.

'Orgasms are great but take a lot of effort. I know they only last about a minute but it feels much longer. I feel a bit faint afterward, so lie back for a minute or two. I guess that's why French women nickname orgasm 'le petit mort', the little death.'

The short answer, for me, like my male anatomical features, is that it feels like a surge of electricity pulsating through my body and mind, almost like I am being electrocuted.  Only this 'electrocution' ends way too soon.  I am being mentored on the art of edging, at the present time, by another hotel guest, to learn to extend my pleasure. 

Masturbation has been my source of orgasms and ejaculations for 99.9% of the time over the past five years, ever since my wife caught me dressed in her bra and panties.  (She no longer sees me as the man she married.  She no longer sees me as a man, TBH).  And throughout my life, since I was a curious young boy masturbating in a small ranch home bathroom of one, shared by 8 people, through being married with a wife that disapproved of my incessant masturbation, and having to sneak it when she and our daughters left the house, my goal has always been to ejaculate in a shorter period of time. 

When I masturbate, I always include my nipples. They are so sensitive and provide me with so much pleasure.  Sometimes, I think I have female nipples on a male body.  Anyway, over the last 10 or so years, I think I have learned to orgasm with nipple stimulation alone.  Orgasm, not ejaculate.